You said "Yes!"
Image above by Jose Villa
It can be intimidating to look out and see a sea of decisions to be made. Don’t lose heart, this is actually supposed to be a fun time in your life. Engagements are just a little chapter, full of hope, joy and excitement. Remember to take time to enjoy and it and celebrate it.
As soon as friends and family know you’re engaged, be ready for a firestorm of questions and unsolicited advice. Everyone wants to know when, where, why etc. etc. I was amazed at all the pressure there was to make quick decisions. Enjoy telling your engagement story to others and just leave them with..” we are still deciding on details.”
Right from the start it’s good to plan to make decisions together. Set boundaries as early as possible as to the roles of friends and family, especially of each of your moms. If you know you want to control where this ship is headed, make sure you let parents (ie moms) know from the start.. “Prince Charming and I are still deciding what we want. I’ll let you know about ____ (location, time, date, etc) later.” (Thankfully we both have great moms and this wasn’t a problem.. but of-so-many weddings turn into what your mom wants and not what you & your love want.)
Here is a fine line between having enough time to plan, and having too much time in planning mode that you burn out and lose sight of the end goal, which is marriage. Engagement is one of those sweet moments in life, in which the most amazing guy asks to spend, share, give, help, & relish the rest of his life with YOU. Still kinda boggles my mind.
